How to deal with loneliness

by Hadarah | Jan 16, 2025 | Motivation, Set Apart Music

‘And יהוה Elohim said, “It is not good for the man to be alone…

Berĕshith (Genesis) 2:18a

It’s sad but true. Most of us on this journey are isolated from community, so we have to deal with loneliness. We spend too much time alone. Most of us have made the decision to leave friends, family, and churches behind for our new found beliefs. A lot of us spend most of our days just working and coming home.

We try to keep our lives in balance, finding ways to keep smiling as we “wash, rinse, repeat.” We function as expected, but deep inside we have a very real sense of loneliness, and it doesn’t feel good. Why? Because we were created to be in community. I pray the video below helps with ideas on how to deal with loneliness. If you’d rather read than watch, scroll down and enjoy the rest of the post.

‘And it is יהוה who is going before you, 

He Himself is with you. 

He does not fail you nor forsake you. 

Do not fear nor be discouraged.’

Deḇarim (Deuteronomy) 31:8

When I first wrote the song, I Need You Now, I was still living in Canada. It was 2019, and even tho I was already married, I was still waiting on my immigration so I could permanently live with my husband in California.

I felt really stuck. I could see the vision. We were married, we had plans to start a garden, and grow our own food. We just wanted to be together and live a quiet, peaceful life, but we couldn’t. The stark contrast between the time I spent visiting my husband in Cali, and the time I spent alone in Canada was huge. I’ll never forget what it was like. Even though I had friends and family within driving distance, I just felt so alone. 

The whole purpose of writing I Need You Now, was so I could pause and just cry out to Yahuah. He understood me and all my pain. He could hear me when I cried out, “Abba, I need you now!” Trust and believe, Yahuah can hear you too. Whatever it is you’re going through right now, you don’t have to feel alone. Yah is with you right now. Just call on Him and He’ll be there. 

Shift Your Focus to Yahuah

‘But seek first the reign of Elohim, and His righteousness, and all these shall be added to you.’

Mattithyahu (Matthew) 6:33, TS2009

The one idea that helped me the most when I was dealing with loneliness is all summed up in this simple concept: Shift your focus. That’s right. Pause, and shift your focus outside of yourself. 

First shift your focus to Yahuah because He’s always with you.

-Call out to Him

-Read scripture

-Listen to music

-Pray 

We already know these things will help us connect to The Most High when we’re feeling alone. We know this because scripture says if we seek first the kingdom, everything else will fall into place.

Shift Your Focus to Creation

‘And יהוה Elohim planted a garden in Ěḏen, to the east, and there He put the man whom He had formed.’

Berĕshith (Genesis) 2:8, TS2009

Second shift your focus to Yah’s creation, the world around you. Go outside. Even in the winter. Get some sunshine. Let some of that crispy winter air rush up your sleeves. Nobody wants to be cold, but breathing in fresh air will remind you that you’re still alive. Yes! Even if it’s just for a short window of time on your lunch break. Every little bit helps. After all, when Yah created us, He placed us in a garden.

Observing and experiencing creation tends to remind us that Yahuah is in control. Plus, you might meet some new people outside. Remember to smile when you do. Maybe even say hello. Just see what happens 🙂 You never know where a simple introduction could lead.

Shift Your Focus to Your Fellow Man

‘“Therefore, whatever you wish men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Torah and the Prophets.’

Mattithyahu (Matthew) 7:12

Third, pause and shift your focus to your fellow man. Ask yourself, what can I do to help someone else today? Is there someone who needs something that I have to offer? A brother or sister who needs me to call and cheer them up? Does a stranger need help holding the door open, or crossing the street?

Maybe you can even do something as noble as fostering children, or go out and feed the hungry. Just shift your focus outside of yourself and you won’t feel so lonely anymore. When you move past the loneliness, you’ll be able to do more good work for The Kingdom of Yah.

Trust in Yah’s Plan

‘And let us be concerned for one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging, and so much more as you see the day coming near.’

Iḇ`rim (Hebrews) 10:24-25, TS2009

Finally, trust that Yah has a plan for your life. Even if you can’t see the vision yet, believe that He wants you to be in community (Hebrews 10:25) and that one day you will be. Keep your eyes and ears open. Yah has a plan.

Leave a comment below if you want to connect with others in this walk. Say what your general location is, if you feel comfortable. You never know, someone else may share the same.

That’s how my husband and I found fellowship in person here in Madera, CA. Turns out, there were three other Hebrew families who believe in Yahuah and Yahusha right in our area just within a few hours drive. It’s a huge blessing and you just never know who is in your area till you ask. So don’t be shy 🙂 I’ll also pin a comment to the top of the YouTube video for this post so whoever wants to share can share. 

I really hope this helped a little, Mishpacha.

Just remember, if you’re feeling lonely, pause and shift your focus. Truly, you’re never alone.

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